Be Still. Listen to the Stones of the Wall

“In silence, we most readily preserve our integrity.” – Meister Eckhart

Maintaining silence is healing. It means removing not just speech, but all extraneous thought and chatter. It means quieting the mind.

It is something I say I want to do, but don’t do as often as I should. The chatter in my head is incessant, constant, distracting, numbing.

Often I am so concerned with the minutia of the moment, the constant movement and flow of daily life, I forget to just stop and breathe. Meditation is healing, and yet I don’t do it as I should.

So, a pact with myself: I will turn to meditation every morning, and even maybe a brief time in the evenings before bed, to be grateful. To thank the Universe for the many blessings that fall upon me every day, for the loved ones – dear friends and clients – who make my life so richly rewarding.

I embrace it all, even the unknown, and step into the breach, off the ledge, trusting that wherever I land will be the place I am meant to be.

I am whole.

I am loved.

I am grateful.

I am enough. (Thank you, Brené Brown.)


Standing in Gratitude

"Celebrate all that is good and blessed about your life, realizing that gratitude is a powerful remedy." - Caroline Myss

Shoreline Park, Santa Barbara

Shoreline Park, Santa Barbara

I was privileged over the weekend to be included in a workshop called The Daring Way, based on the work of Dr. Brene Brown. Brown has written a number of books, among them Daring Greatly, The Gifts of Imperfection, and The Power of Vulnerability. She also has given two very powerful TED talks on shame and vulnerability, which prompted me to think deeply about how those two emotional states affect my life.

The workshop was facilitated by Kathryn Downing and her husband, Gerry Flake, who spent several years working with Brown to become certified to teach the course. It was an amazing experience, and I will reflect more in this space on the things I learned in coming weeks and months. The primary take-away for me was that we can choose to live authentically and be vulnerable. The more you can show up and be vulnerable, the less shame you'll feel and the more authentic your life will become. It's a way of living wholeheartedly, and that's what I intend to do.

So, I'm grateful for the time I got to spend with Kathryn and Gerry and the nine others who participated. I'm grateful, too, for my life, and for all of you who are so important to me. (And you know who you are.)

If there's anything I have learned over the past few years, it is that we get to choose what our lives will look like. We can create the life we want. And in the creating we find love, hope, peace, and abundance in all things.

May this day find you in a state of joy and gratitude - for your life, and all the people in it.

Brené Brown and Daring Greatly


“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” - Brené Brown

I'm reading Brené Brown's latest book, Daring Greatly, about finding the courage to be vulnerable. It is a hard thing, especially for someone who has had to be strong most of her life. I'm slowly realizing the gifts of being vulnerable, and part of that is also recognizing that we are enough, just as we are. I am enough.

If you haven't seen Brené's TED talks, they are well worth viewing. There are two; one on vulnerability and one on shame. Watch them both.